How To Become Your Best Self

You are already incredible. Seriously. There is no one like you in the entire population of over seven billion people on this earth.

Still, the ultimate aim in life is growth, and setting goals to become better is always a good thing.

The truth is that becoming your “best self” is a moving target. As you improve your knowledge, health, and wisdom, you’ll continually want even more out of life.

Wherever you are in life, these five things will guide you towards your goal of becoming the best possible version of you:

1. The Willingness to Push Yourself

Complacency is the killer of dreams. You have to be willing to step out of your comfort zone to grow. Right outside that zone is a layer of fear that keeps most people cozy and content in their comfort area.

The unknown can be a scary place, especially when you’re okay where you are or you have serious fears of doing something new. You have to be willing to push yourself to get through what you can’t see in order to find something even greater on the other side.

Think about your past. You may have had a few occasions when trying something new went poorly.

For the most part, though — if you’re totally honest with yourself — the worst of it was the buildup to the new experience. You created awful scenarios in your mind that ratcheted up your anxiety but never actually happened.

Push yourself, knowing that the odds of things going so bad they’re unfixable are very small.

Push yourself, knowing that if you can make it to the unknown circumstance, the hardest part is the first twenty seconds. Get there, get through the initial unknown, and you might find your best self on the other side.

2. Deep-Down Determination

The willingness to push yourself out of your comfort zone is one thing, but the determination to get it done takes consistency! How do you get up every day and keep moving towards your goals when life gets in the way so often?

Motivation and inspiration can get you moving, but looking towards external sources for the drive to better yourself isn’t the final answer.

Accountability from other people can be a way to help boost your productivity. In the long run, though, you’re the only one who can consistently be there for yourself.

If you rely on a podcast or text from a friend to get you moving, it’s easy to decide to ignore them. What about those days when you just don’t want to hear someone cheerfully chirping positive phrases, so you shut your phone off?

You have to look deep within you and find the determination to do what needs to be done. Strength doesn’t come from doing hard things; it happens when you know you don’t want to do something and you do it anyway.

When you stop making excuses and use your own determination to get the job done, that’s when you’ll find your best self.

3. A Set of Goals

Without a target, you can get through each day, but you’re wandering aimlessly. This is okay for short time periods and could even be necessary for a rough or transition season.

Psychologists say that creating goals for yourself and writing them down may be all you need to take control of your mind and actions. When you become goal-oriented, you can achieve more because you have a destination in mind.

In fact, setting goals helps you push yourself and increase your determination. The more clearly you plan for your targets, the easier it is to reach them.

As soon as you can, sit down and set goals to move you forward. Start simple, with goals for the week. When you’re ready, move on to six-month, five-year, and retirement goals. Within each goal, create an action plan to get you there!

4. Self-Care Habits

Even the most well-planned, well-designed goals will be hopeless if you’re not taking care of your mental and physical health.

Of course, even locking yourself up in a bubble won’t keep you safe forever. Accidents happen, and some diseases are unavoidable and unpredictable. However, you can prevent a lot of problems by taking care of your health.

The instructions we’re given about nutrition can be confusing. Eggs are bad for you. No, wait! Eat them! Coffee is bad, but sometimes it’s good. Nuts are fattening, but you should eat them, sometimes. Even fruit gets a bad reputation because of the sugar in it.

It’s no wonder that millions of people aren’t sure what to eat to stay healthy. But to become your best self, you need to learn how to eat well.

What you eat determines how your body feels. This has a direct connection to your mental health. Start your self-care slowly through a change in your dietary habits. Eating healthily will open your mind to living well!

5. Strict Boundaries

We all want to be liked and avoid arguments and problems. Because of this human nature aspect, it’s often easier to just go along with what others want, even if you don’t agree.

But how can you get to your goals when you’re living your life based on the preferences of others?

Without personal boundaries, it’s easy to get distracted from your purpose. You must decide if you are happier letting other people direct your life, or if you want to be in charge of where you’re going.

When you start enforcing your changes, it’s going to cause ripples. People will attempt to get into your life the way they’re used to, only to find a boundary there instead. This is perfectly natural, and you need to expect and prepare for it.

As you transform into your best self, your routines and expectations are going to change. You’ll demand more respect from those around you, and you’ll give more where it’s earned.

Making these changes requires willpower and consistency. But, your boundaries shouldn’t be walls. Keep them fluid and evolving as you learn what works for you and what doesn’t.

Don’t ever let someone else choose your boundaries for you, and you’ll always continue improving.


Becoming your best self is a lifelong adventure. Through your own experiences, you’ll learn and grow into a wiser, more knowledgeable you.

It’s to be expected that who you are will be completely different from one day to the next. These five characteristics will let you take control of the evolution that leads you on the journey to bettering yourself.

Author Bio:

Ryan Sundling is a Group Marketing Manager at Cardinal Group Management. He has over ten years of experience in the conventional housing industry and works with The Ruckus on Rio on a daily basis to help them with their marketing efforts.